Here are two different stories with the same lesson learn:
When NASA began launching astronauts into space, they found out that the pens they tool would not work in zero gravity because ink wouldn’t flow down to the writing surface. It took them one decade and $12 million to solve this problem. They developed a pen that worked in zero gravity, upside down, underwater, in practically any surface including crystal and in a temperature range from below freezing to over 300 degrees C.
What did the Russians do? They used a pencil.
One of Japan ‘s biggest cosmetics companies received a complaint that a consumer had bought a soap box that was empty. Immediately management isolated the problem to the assembly line, which transported all the packaged boxes of soap to the delivery department. They found that one soap box had gone through the assembly line completely empty. Management looked to its engineers to solve the problem from happening again. Post-haste, the engineers worked hard to devise an X-ray machine with high-resolution monitors manned by two people to watch to make sure all the soap boxes that passed through the line were full. They worked hard and they worked fast but they spent an extensive amount of time and money to find a solution.
But when an employee in a small company was posed with the same problem, he did not get into complications of X-rays, etc., but instead came out with another solution. He bought a strong industrial fan and pointed it at the assembly line. He switched the fan on, and as each soap box passed the fan, it simply blew the empty boxes out of the line.
Nampak tak persamaan yang cuba disampaikan disini? We need to focus on the solution..be part of the solution not the problem!!
Kebenarannya, kita sebenarnya sangat dipengaruhi oleh apa yang kita percaya dan apa yang kita focuskan dalam kehidupan kita. Which means, jika kita terlalu focuskan kepada masalah kita, kita tend to attract more problem dalam diri kita. Perasan tak kenapa orang yang kita nampak macam takde masalah tu happy je muka dia..kadang2 kita pon jadi pelik..tertanya..'dia ni da la tak pernah ada masalah aku tengok, muka pon nak happyyy jek'..the truth is, if you think positive, all the positive way and solution will always be with you.
Negative thinking is extremely not a good way in solving a problem. It one of the way to make you even more stress by making you not loving in a present time or world. It creates boundaries between you and the real world by living in your own negative imaginary world. Negative thinking akan membuatkan anda focus kepada masalah anda dengan lebih mendalam..membuatkan anda tertanya..kenapa semua ni terjadi kepada aku?..kenapa aku??
Kita sepatutnya bersyukur dengan masalah kita (I will elaborate more on this on other entry on why we should be grateful for our problem).. Dengan berfikiran positif, anda akan focus kepada cara untuk menyelesaikan masalah tersebut..
Tapi bagaimana mahu berfikiran positif??
1. Mengaku yang anda ada masalah tersebut. Daripada kita bertanya, "Aku tak percaya semua ni berlaku kat aku"..kita sepatutnya, "Ok, this is really happening to me..like seriously happening!!" Just as simple as a drug addict want to stop..He/she need to admit first that she have the problem and need a solution. Hadapi masalah tersebut dengan tenang. We should realize that everybody has problem kan?
2. Pusing pemikiran anda which is actually in english yang sedap sikit,turn your way of thinking. Jangan menafikan masalah anda..Instead of using, "I don't want all this"..start talking to yourself, "Ini masalah yang aku hadapi sekarang, so let's find a solution for by hook or by crook!!" (ayat bagi semangat sikit) and then.. "so sekarang apa plan aku or step aku untuk menyelesaikan masalah aku ni?"
3. Start looking for guidance or knowledge or skills. Or also a mentor pon boleh jugak. Me myself have a problem in dealing with my negative thinking. So first, I admit that I have this problem and I need a solution for it! Later, I found out that by looking for tips in the internet helps me become better in managing my own feelings and the way I'm thinking. I start to search a lot of stories, blogs etc. But at the end of the day, I believe that I have Allah.. Only Him can help me. So saya berserah kepadaNya sepenuhnya dan selalunya, Alhamdulillah, when I need Him, He always there for me. Tak pernah berputus asa memberi petunjuk. It's all up to you. Some of the people they tend to refer to their parents, bestfriends, boy/girlfriends..but at the end, it's the same..you're not living your life alone.
So that's it!! Start think positive now!! Live your life to the happiness!!