Mental!

Salah satu perkara yang bagus bila kita berjalan kat negara orang ni, kita akan dapat belajar tentang mentaliti manusia yang berbeza2.. And somehow we will start to compare it with our people's mentality especially Malay!

I don't say that Malay have a short mentality..Melayu tu indah..Saya anak Melayu..and I'm proud to be one..I'm very proud when I go outside Malaysia, and people ask me what is my race and I'm proudly say I'm Malay!! and from my dearest country Malaysia!! Memang semangat habis cerita and tunjuk gamba2 budaya kita dan negara kita..

But somehow I feel sad..bile balik Malaysia..and some of the people start to have the "short mentality" and judgement..like:

1. Umur dah meningkat tapi still belum kahwin lagi.

Tidak semestinya jika seorang gadis tu belum berkahwin lagi walaupon usia dia da makin naik bermakna yang dia tidak laku kan? Mungkin dia sendiri yang tak nak kan? Atau maybe dia nak berjaya dalam career dia dulu?Yes, we can still earn it kalau dah kahwin. But can she get the same focus level if she already have a baby on her? No kannn?? So thanks to all those makcik2 yang kuat bergosip pasal anak orang lain tu,all this so-happy-being-single-before-meeting-her-soulmate girl/women ni menjadi stress and worst is, they end up just marry some guy yang ntah hape2 just to shut all those mouth..but the marriage goes unhappy, will those makcik2 nak tolong ke?

2. Kahwin muda tu gatal.
Ini lagi mengarut tapi that's the reality! Me myself jumpa dengan orang2 macam ni.. They think that if that couple kahwin awal, means diorang ni dah gatal sangat. Come on people..just now you said kahwin lambat tak laku..kahwin awal pon salah jugak? Why don't we just have a positive thinking of other people? I mean, baguslah dia nak kahwin awal..atleast boleh elak maksiat kan?And dah jodoh dia sampai dulu..just be happy for them boleh kan?

3. "Janji Melayu"
I think this is the worst part and shouldn't be implemented at all..It's not logic pon..Even saya sendiri selalu terkena dengan ayat ni bila ade someone (tak kisahla membe ke tak) sesukahati buat muka tak bersalah guna ayat ni padahal dia dah lambat. YOU are the one that late..then why you have to drag nama kaum sendiri..dah la memalukan pulak tu..haiyooo..lainlah baru je lepas dapat balak macam Edward Cullen ke and cakap "oh I melayu and I dapat Edward ok!you ade?" (ok xde kaitan)

The point of this entry is that, I'm trying to tell you guys that how many people that I've met takut nak teruskan next step diorang sebab terlalu fikirkan orang lain. Apa makcik dia akan kata? Apa jiran sebelah yang setahun 2 kali je jumpa akan kata? Too much thought from other people yang actually tak penting pon! But because of this mentality, they still stop! Kita ada adat, dan adat kita sangatlah indah..Melayu itu sendiri kaum yang tinggi sopan santunnya..tapi we don't have the short mentality just because of another penyakit dalam diri kita which is, penyakit "tak boleh tengok orang lain lagi senang dari kita".. Betul tak??

If you think that you are in the right path, then just go for it.. I remind you again, will those makcik2 or kawan2 yang mengata you guys tu akan tolong korang bila korang susah nanti?? tak kannnn??? It's all up to you..as long as you in the right way..you know what I mean right?

Till then,

-Puan Sawang-